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Is There Really Such A Thing As A Dream Home?

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Ah, that fabled ‘dream home.’ So many of us want to live in one, but so very few of us do. 

Why? Well, perhaps its because we are a fickle bunch of people, always imagining the grass is greener is on the other side of the fence (or the neighbourhood). We’re never happy with what we have, and continue to long for more. 

Or perhaps its because we don’t have the finances to afford a dream home. We look adoringly at summer cottages and luxury apartments online, but decide to buy something second-best instead because we think we can’t afford anything else. 

And even if we do get the opportunity to move into a ‘dream home,’ we might still feel unhappy. The bills might be higher than we would like. The neighbours could be hellish. And as our families grow, we might resent the lack of space at our disposal. In short, we feel as if we are living in a proverbial nightmare rather than a dream.

So, is there really such a thing as a dream home? Or is it a fabled myth? 

Well, we think the answer is yes, but you need to take the following into consideration.

#1: Remember that perfection is hard to achieve

If you’re looking to move into the perfect home, then you are going to be looking for a long time. There will always be something to tarnish the dream image, be it a bathroom that is a little too small, a neighbour who is both noisy and nosey, or a garden that is regularly upended by moles and other wildlife. If you’re looking to move into the ‘dream home’ then, you might need to alter your expectations a little and remove the idea of perfection from your mind. As long as most of your dream home checklist has been achieved, you might find joy and pleasure in your home, despite the imperfections. In short then, be happy with what you have and not what you haven’t!

#2: Remember that any home can become a dream home

You don’t have to move into a dream home right away! If you find something that ticks all of your boxes, then fine. But if you don’t, remember that you can work on your ‘second-best home’ in the months and years to come. So, renovate your bathroom if it’s too small and fit it out with all of the fixtures that you might have longed for at the beginning. Do the same with any other rooms in your home too, perhaps by decorating them in the styles you love. And get on top of any nuisance problems, be they repair jobs, garden intrusions, nosey neighbours, or anything else, and research ways to manage them. By taking active steps to improve your property, you might soon be living in the home of your dreams. 

#3: Remember to curb your enthusiasm

Before buying what looks like a dream home, rein yourself in a little. Figure out your finances to ensure you can afford both the upfront and ongoing costs. Hire a professional to inspect the property you are looking at for any maintenance problems. And ask investigative questions to the seller before agreeing to buy, as you will then have the ability to make an educated decision. By taking such steps, there is less chance of your dream home becoming a nightmare property after you have moved in. 

Is there really such a thing as a dream home? Probably, but take the above into consideration. By doing so, you should have the opportunity to live in a house that ticks most (or perhaps all) of your boxes. 

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Aspects Of Moving Home To Plan Meticulously

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Four Reasons To Renovate The Bathroom

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Home renovations are a big deal, as they’re your shot at upgrading and redoing the areas of your home that you’re not so proud of having. It can seem like a costly and time-consuming task, and sometimes it can be, but there are so many more reasons to renovate than there is not to do it! You are going to live through a little bit of upheaval, but with the right planning, you can make your bathroom upgrade one that is worth it.

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Buying A Home: How To Know It’s Perfect For You

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3 Things People Forget To Do When Moving Home

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Ah, the joys of moving house.

With much to do and think about, from actually buying a house to sorting out your packing boxes for moving day, you can be forgiven if you forget a few minor details in the process. 

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5 Things To Do Before Starting A Family

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Starting a family is a massive decision, and it will be different for everyone. Some couples will want to start young so they can have lots of kids, some babies are an unexpected (yet wonderful) surprise, and some people decide to wait until much later on before they have kids. There really is no right or wrong answer, it’s all down to you and your circumstances. However, if you want to make things a little easier for yourself, there are a few things you’re able to do in your life before kids come along. It’s not essential, but if you want to plan and be prepared, here are some things you can do before starting a family. 

Consider your career

Working around raising a family isn’t the easiest, and it’s something that couples often struggle with. There was once a time when the man would go out to work and be the breadwinner while the woman would stay home and raise the children, but times are changing now. Many women now have excellent careers, or the drive to continue working around having children. High living costs means that families often need two working partners just to make ends meet, whether they want to or not. If you’re early on in your career, you could think of ways of taking a more flexible route. For example, if you’re a hairdresser or beautician you could go self employed and work from home or mobile once you have children as a way to fit things in around having them. If you have a trade or a skill, you could look to open your own business later down the line so that you’re in control. Lots of types of jobs these days give you the opportunity to work from home which can be useful as a parent as it gives you more flexibility. It’s probably not going to be possible with a newborn, but when your child starts going to nursery or preschool you could use this time to go home and work through your tasks, without the need to dress a certain way, travel to the workplace or anything else that can take added time and effort. 

Find the right place to live

If you’re set on having children, finding a place to live before they come along can save a lot of stress and hassle compared to moving when you’re pregnant or with a young child. If you currently live in a flat, a house that’s difficult to access due to lots of stairs or somewhere that’s just not the type of home or area you’d want for a family then consider moving early on. Get yourself a family home that’s close to schools you’d be happy to send your future child to. Check out if there are things like parks and amenities nearby. If you want a garden and a certain number of bedrooms then ensure those boxes are ticked. That way you can work on doing up the property, putting your stamp on it and getting settled before starting your family. Before you have children, there are lots of things you don’t really think about when you’re choosing your home, and so the place you live in now might not be suitable. When you’re looking for your next property, keep in mind your future family and choose the house as if you already have your child or children. That way you won’t need to go through the stress of moving later down the line. 


Work on your health

Having a baby requires a whole load of complex body and hormonal processes to take place. It’s no wonder it’s called ‘the miracle of conception’ as there are many pieces to the puzzle, and if just one of them is wrong then it simply can’t happen. Getting yourself into the best condition physically is one of the most important things you can do. Getting down to the right weight, eating healthily and exercising- along with keeping your stress and mental health in check will all help you to regulate hormones. This is true in both men and women, and starting a good few months before you conceive is a good idea. Consider taking pre conception vitamins, you can buy these for both men and women and they ensure you have everything you need alongside a healthy diet. If you have any chronic health conditions, speak to your doctor and find out if any changes will be needed before you try for a baby. You could even look into getting more ‘minor’ complaints sorted- eczema treatment for skin problems, dental work and eye tests done beforehand. It just means that it’s one less thing to think about once you fall pregnant, and you’ll feel good knowing that your health is all under control. Hopefully you don’t have any problems with conceiving, but if you do, you can at least rule out a lot of different things if you’ve already spent time working on your health beforehand. For example, if you’re already active with a bmi that’s within normal range, you won’t be fobbed off by the doctor saying that this could be the cause, as it will be clear that it’s not. A great way to take control of your fertility before having a baby is to start tracking your cycles and ovulation so you have an insight into what’s going on in your body. There are a number of ways to do this, from ovulation prediction kits to basal body tracking.

Get your finances in check

Having a baby is always going to be expensive. Along with all of the items they need, from a pram to a cot to nursery furniture, clothes, toys and so much more, you also have to factor in the loss (or at least partial loss) of one income at first, and then the continued loss or the cost of childcare later on if you return to work. Having some savings behind you is one of the best things you can do, open a joint account with your partner then set up a standing order so that a set amount is taken from your main account and transferred over every payday. It doesn’t need to be a huge amount, but if it takes you a year to conceive and then another nine months to grow a baby, even ten or twenty a week each could add up to a couple of thousand to spend as you need once they arrive. Aim to have all debts paid off and have your finances running smoothly before the baby is born. If you set all of your bills to come out of a separate bills account by direct debit, you can be sure they’re paid each month without having to phone up different companies or pay things separately. One less thing to do when you’re caring for a newborn! 

Consider your support system

Having a baby is one of the times in your life that your support system is absolutely invaluable. While it’s an exciting time it can also be full of nerves and anxiety, there are probably a million and one things on your mind. Having a support system there really helps with the ups and downs, chatting things through can help to give you a different perspective. Loved ones can raise you up when you’re down, or just be a shoulder to cry on when you need it. If you’ve drifted apart from family and friends, make the effort to rebuild relationships. The one with your own parents is liklely to be invaluable at this time, as well as siblings and close friends. Having a network of love and trust around you is one of the best things you can do before starting a family, and once your little one arrives they will get to reap the benefits of this too. Don’t feel as though you have to do it all alone, you don’t need to stay strong and keep your emotions in. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is let it out and chat it through with someone that cares, and once you get pregnant you might find you need to do this more often.

Are you planning on starting a family soon, or in a few years? What sorts of things are you going to do in preparation?

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Simple House Buying Tips

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When you are ready to buy your first home, there are a lot of big decisions to make. It can be a nerve-racking period, with a lot of unknowns going on. However, these tips might just make the process a little bit easier for you. 

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5 Ways To Improve Your Home Security This Christmas

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Our homes are an extension of ourselves, making a break-in or theft from our property a personal blow. At this time of year as we gear up for Christmas, we start to fill our homes with the latest gadgets, toys and items, making them even more attractive to opportunistic thieves and criminals. To keep yourself, your belongings and your property safe, here are 5 ways in which you can improve your security over the Christmas period. 

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Never Hurts to be Prepared

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Whether you work for yourself or you head up a small team, when you’re in charge everyone looks to you for, well, everything. You have all the answers from business strategy down to where the first-aid is kept. It’s this latter issue that we’re going to talk about today and ask you to ask yourself: when’s the last time you updated your emergency kit either at home or in the office, or both?

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The Ultimate Guide to a Great Family Finance Discussion

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They say you should never talk about money, don’t they?  But we do have to sometimes – it makes the world go round, after all… Now, we’re not suggesting you discuss it with everyone – don’t worry!  Just that’s it’s important between close family and loved ones.

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8 Ways To Care For Your Loved Ones In Old Age

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Although it isn’t a nice thought, you need to start thinking about how you’re going to care for your loved ones in their old age. Whether they’re starting to get closer to retirement age or they’re already there, thinking about the steps you need to take in order to care for them is important. Whether it’s finding a suitable care home or looking out for the warning signs of dementia, you need to ensure you’re as prepared as you can be. It may not be pleasant, but it’s the best thing you can do for their health. 

With that in mind, here are 9 ways to care for your loved ones in old age: 

  • Make Sure They’re Regularly Visiting The Doctor

One of the best ways to care for your loved ones in old age is to ensure they’re regularly visiting their doctor. Whilst this doesn’t mean they need to go every few months, it does mean they need to book in a check-up at least once a year. During this check-up they will be able to ask any questions they have, addressing concerns they have had over the last six months or so. If they need any new medication, they will be able to renew their prescription. 

Although they may tell you they don’t need to see a doctor, it’s important you encourage them to go. For guidance when it comes to getting someone to see a doctor, you can visit this site here. 

  • Look Out For Any Warning Signs When It Comes To Illnesses

Whilst this may be one of the hardest things you have to do, looking out for warning signs is incredibly important when it comes to your elderly relatives. Although sometimes you may find that the warning signs are hard to spot, others may be as clear as day. Whether it’s looking for red flags when it comes to dementia or looking for signs that their physical health is deteriorating, the sooner you pick on up things the better.

  • Give Them An Emergency Number To Call If They Need You

If you are worried about whether or not your loved ones are going to be able to reach out to you in their time of need, you may want to consider giving them an emergency number to call you on. Whether this is a mobile number or your work’s contact, you need to be sure they can get in touch with at least one of you should they need to. If they’re unable to get in touch with you, make sure you’re giving them a list of other emergency numbers they can call. 

  • Help Them Arrange Hospital Appointments And Visits

If your loved ones need to attend several different hospital appointments in their old age, it’s important you’re doing everything you can to help arrange them. Whether this means booking the appointments and writing them on their calendar or driving them to the hospital yourself, you need to be sure you are doing everything you can to get them to their appointment. Whilst it may mean taking time off work or changing your schedule, putting your loved ones first should be your main priority. 

  • Arrange For A Carer To Visit Their Home Daily

If you feel as though your elderly relatives are starting to struggle when it comes to day-to-day life, you may want to consider arranging for a carer to visit their home on a daily basis. Having a carer attend their property will not only help them with the daily tasks they find difficult, but it will also help when it comes to their wellbeing. For more information about having daily home visits from a carer, you can visit this site here. 

  • Consider Whether Or Not They Need To Go In A Home

If having a carer visit their home on a daily basis still doesn’t seem to be helping your elderly relatives, it may be time to think about whether or not they would be better going into a home. Although it may be the last thing you want to think of, you have to do what is best for your loved ones. When it comes to choosing the right home, you need to be sure you’re visiting as many different options as you can. Take your loved one’s needs and wants into consideration, asking them where they would like to stay. Although you may not be able to give them their first choice, you need to be sure it’s going to be a home they’ll enjoy. 

  • Make Sure You’re Visiting Them As Much As Possible

No matter where your loved ones are living, you need to be sure you’re visiting them as much as you possibly can. Whether they’re living at home or in a care home, they will start to feel old in their old age. Although you may not be able to visit them every single day, building up a schedule where you regularly pop in for a coffee or a chat should be your main priority. If you have children, you may want to consider encouraging them to visit too. 

  • Take Them On Fun Days Out

Finally, taking your loved ones out for fun days out should be something you do on a regular basis. Although they may not be able to do as much as they used to, they will love seeing something different for a change. The best thing to do is to ask your loved ones what they want to do, putting together a plan that will give them the best possible experience. 

Whether it’s going to the beach or spending the day shopping, you should put their choices first. For inspiration when it comes to spending the day with your elderly relatives, you can visit this site here. 

Are you looking for ways to help when it comes to caring for a loved one in old age? What can you do to ensure you’re doing the best job you can? Let me know in the comments section below.

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Essential Things to Consider When Buying a Block of Land

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Buying land can be a great investment. But if you plan to build on it – it’s best to be cautious.

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Things You Should Know Before Buying Your Forever Home

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Buying your forever home is something that needs careful consideration – it’s called ‘forever’ for a reason! However, many people are currently on the look out for their forever home, and many people are even looking for it earlier than ever before.  Continue Reading

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Don’t Let Their Infidelity Break You

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Infidelity feels like a stab in your heart. For a lot of people, there could be no greater pain. It leaves you vulnerable, weak, and feeling soiled as if you were not good enough for your partner. According to She Said, cheating is a lot more common than you might think. Almost 4 in 10 Australians admit having cheated once or more on their partner. It doesn’t take the pain, but it can help you to tackle the situation from a different perspective. Indeed, you are not alone when it comes to infidelity. And that’s where you can find the strength to rebuild yourself. There is plenty of support available:  Continue Reading

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When Can You Save A Struggling Relationship?

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Building a solid relationship is a full-time commitment. Of course, everybody dreams of the perfect, happy relationship, but most people forget that happy couples work hard to make it happen. Indeed, it seems strange to assume that happiness in your couple has to imply that you share the same ideas and interests. While you do need a common base, disagreements and diverging views are at the heart of your relationship. The key is not to ignore them or pretend they don’t exist. If you want your couple to survive the first disagreement, you need to face your differences with your eyes wide open. Continue Reading

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Bonding With Your Family This Summer

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We all have our responsibilities. Most of us have careers, or at least an income we have to work towards. All of us have our daily needs, our daily duties, and personal management we need to figure out and benefit from. All of us wish to better ourselves, and make each day more appropriate and comfortable. All of us have to deal with difficulties, and the rising challenges that seem to spring out of nowhere.  Continue Reading

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Dealing With Dementia In The Family

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There’s no way to make a dementia diagnosis any less devastating than it is, emotionally. However, that doesn’t mean that there is no way to fight and ensure the highest standards of living for the longest time possible. Here are a few tips for those families who have been caught by one of the hardest diagnoses of all and what you can do for a loved one who is going to need your help in future.

Seeking support

If the diagnosis is recent or you’re simply not aware of the support services and groups that are out there, then that should be the first place to start. There are groups for both those with dementia, helping them engage with their community, and for those who care for them, helping them share their stories but also helping them get practical advice and information that can help them better understand the disease and how to cope with it over time.

Taking the initiative

Staying healthy doesn’t become any less important after a dementia diagnosis. In fact, it becomes more important than ever. The rate of decline may be associated with certain health lifestyle factors, such as food, diet, socialising, stress, and so on. At https://unforgettable.org, you can see a range of tips on how those living with dementia should try to improve their health. It may be able to stop the disease from progressing as it otherwise would. Family members can help by guiding them through exercises such as walking through the park or helping to change their diet.

Ensuring a standard of care

When living with dementia, we want to remain as independent as possible for those longest time possible. However, we have to address the fact that the time will come that we are no longer able to take care of ourselves completely. The discussion about how to ensure care should be held earlier rather than later, so everyone can have their say. Beyond having a loved one as a caregiver, there are options like https://yukana.org.au/ which provide a safe setting, trained staff, and a host of therapy services to help fight the disease over time. Looking at the different options is important before making any choices.

Making plans for the future

If a diagnosis has been caught early enough, then someone living with dementia still has time to ensure that their estate is handled in the way that they would prefer. Besides writing a will and assigning an executor of that will, they can also decide on who gets legal guardianship to make those decisions for them. It’s worth noting that you may need the help of a lawyer to obtain legal guardianship if the severity of the dementia means the person is no longer able to make such decisions on their own.

Dementia is a condition that gets progressively worse over time, which means that the earliest you start putting the necessary wheels in motion, such as preparing the estate and look at potential sources of care, the more prepared you can be when you truly need them.

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The Difficulties Of Moving Home

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When you are moving home, it is likely that you are going to be at least a little stressed for much of it. This is the kind of situation that many people find stressful, and it’s hardly surprising that it might be such a difficulty for you to try and get over. The truth however is that you should always be able to improve this situation and find an easier way to do it, so long as you are ready and happy to do what it necessary to do so. In this article, we are going to be focusing on some of the difficulties of moving home, along with how you might expect to be able to make them a little easier. As long as you are focused on these, you should find that you can make your home move considerably easier and more likely to be successful on the whole.

Time Management

Because of the up in the air nature of moving home, it can be hard to know how to actually get the time management right, and this is one of the first things that you might want to look into. If you fail to manage time properly, it will only mean that you will have to run around and get stressed towards the end, and that is something that you will certainly want to avoid if you can help it. For that reason, it’s worth drawing up an itinerary at the start, so that you can know exactly what you are going to do and when, and so that everyone can be much clearer on how the operation will go down. That alone will mean that you can find the whole experience a little less stressful, and much more likely to be a success.

Transport

If you are to move all of your belongings, you will of course need to make sure that you have appropriate transport, and that is something that you will need to look into early on if you hope to get it right. Knowing what kind of transport you need requires that you have a good idea of how much stuff you need to transport, so it is absolutely worth looking into that early on first of all. You might just need the services of something like Sydney ute hire if you don’t have much, or you might need to look into hiring a larger van. Whatever it is that you need make sure that you get it as soon as possible so that you are ready for the move when the time comes.

Work

Something that often gets in the way of moving home is work, and especially so if there are more than one of you who need to work. In order to make moving home easier, you might want to think about trying to get some time off work, or at least ensuring that you are moving over the weekend or something. The less that you have to think about other concerns, the more likely it is that you will be able to make the move work out as well as possible.

 

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These Classic Christmas Presents Won’t Go Amiss

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If you are starting to think about what presents to buy for those around you, or starting even to worry about it, you are not alone. A lot of people find it especially difficult to be able to find the right presents for people, and most people lack a certain kind of confidence in their own ability to do so too. If that sounds like you, don’t worry – there are plenty of things you can do to make it a little easier on yourself and ensure that your loved ones still end up with gifts they will enjoy, and it might be easier than you think to do so. One way to approach this is to think about what kinds of gifts are considered classic, because those gifts will very often be exactly the kind which you might consider getting, as they are bound to work well in most cases. In this post, we will look at some of the truly classic gifts you should consider if you want to make sure that you do well this year.

Jewellery

Whether you are buying for your parent, sibling or spouse, jewellery is very often a great way to go, and there is a very good reason it is one of the most popular kinds of presents given at Christmas time. No matter who you are buying for, you can surely find some piece of jewellery that they are going to be pleased with and enjoy wearing, and it is likely going to be something that they enjoy and cherish for a long time. Whether that person in particular will prefer earrings or a necklace or whatever else you might think of, you will find that they will appreciate it and that it will lead to a much more enjoyable Christmas time for them. Consider this and buy early if you want to really be confident in what you are getting them.

Holiday

Often, the best gifts are those which are not things, but rather experiences. And amongst the most popular and enjoyable experiences out there are holidays, which are in themselves a great present to give to someone particularly close to you in your life. If you are keen to get your spouse something that they can really be chuffed with, then you will probably find a holiday to be a great way to go, so it is definitely worth thinking about. It could be just a weekend break to somewhere they really enjoy, or it might be that you want to go somewhere new for the both of you. Either way, this is a great way to ensure that your Christmas period will be enjoyable for the both of you.

Chocolate

If you are buying for someone less close to you, but still important in some sense, you can always go down the chocolate route. This, in fact, does tend to go down particularly well at Christmas, and it’s something you should consider well if you hope to be able to be pleased with the presents you buy. Make sure it is special in some way, such as being particularly good quality or a novelty size, and it will have an even better effect.

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Finding the “Secret Sauce” to life

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Surviving two different forms of cancer should be an exciting celebration, but it can be difficult to know who you are and where you fit in with the new, unrequested title of “Super Survivor”. This is especially true if your doctors have told you they can do nothing more for you. In other words, don’t get this disease again or you are going to die.

A lot of cancer survivors prefer not to make any changes to their life, it is easier and perhaps unnecessary to turn their lives upside down. But for some, myself included, there was something I was doing that just wasn’t working anymore. Not sure of what exactly, I decided to take the “out with the old and in with the new” approach.

  • A little freshen up here, releasing stale relationships.
  • A little sprucing there, cleansing my toxic living environment
  • Let’s go meet the Dalai Lama literally and practice a Buddhist way of life.
  • Oh, and while we are at it, why not get a divorce and change everything that I eat to startliving an Ayurvedic (Ancient form of Indian Medicine) way of life!

That’s a good start, I thought. That way I knew eventually when I do leave this planet, I would know that I tried everything. I would not go to that grave with the thought “If I had only…?”.

13 years later, a new marriage, blended family, thriving business and clean bill of health, here is what I know for sure.

Don’t resist change: While it was difficult and darn right scary to change everything in my life, when the doctors sat on my bed, telling me to make change or die, the only thing I could do was to trust my gut.

For the first time since I was an eight-year-old, I reconnected with that illusive voice within. I thought I had lost my voice somewhere in the fields of my pain and suffering. Probably leaving it under a mushroom on top of one of the hills I sobbed all my “feel sorry for myself” sorrows on.

But alas, there it was, screaming at me. “GET UP! Do what ever it takes to survive! You have two small children and there ain’t no way they are going to grow up without you!”

So, I did. Since that moment, moving forward until today. I trust every gut instinct, internal voice, guidance system, whatever you want to call it, no questions asked. How do I know it’s working? Cause I’m still here.

Set your intentions and don’t get attached to the outcome: This was a big one. Of course, I did not travel this journey on my own. I listened to my gut and created a support team that I could rely on when I needed help. One of my team members was the Guru, Deepak Chopra, whom first taught me about Ayurvedic medicine.

On the path to becoming a certified Chopra Practitioner earlier this year, I had the good fortune of spending time with Deepak and his team at the Chopra Centre in San Diego California. He stood there on the fourth day of teachings and said “It’s like this. When you plant a seed in the flower bed, you nurture it, water it, put it in the sun and trust that the universe will do the rest to allow the flower to grow. You don’t go out to the flower bed every day, dig the seed up to see if it is growing.”

There it was, like a lightning bolt directly from the universe, I got it. I am really, really good at planting seeds of intention, but metaphorically I go out every day, dig the little guy up to see if he is growing. I get in the way of the flow of life, interfering with what is meant to be. I set my intentions and get obsessed with the outcome, hanging my identity as a human being on that result. And watch out if it did not turn out the way I wanted. Crazy Woman coming through!

I now realise that this practice repels any form of manifestation. Energetically it is impossible for anything to grow to its ultimate potential with me always getting in the way.

Finding the “Secret Sauce”: The part of the story that I have not told you is that I grew up with a Bi- Polar, slightly Schizophrenic father who taught me that vulnerability was weak. Being sensitive was dramatic and being feminine was weak and irrelevant.

My survival reaction was to shut down who I was inside. Stop feeling and spend my junior life attempting to become whatever it was he wanted me to be.

Later I realised that for an introverted, creative and highly sensitive human being, this was the fuel for my Dis-Ease. The exhaustion from trying to morph into something that I was not for decades finally brought me to my knees with disease.

The secret sauce to my survival was to be brave and dare to show my vulnerably, feminine creative side and prey it would be enough and by golly it worked. I now run a six-figure business, trotting around the globe teaching other women to be a reflection of the potential that lies within us all.

I hope you can something from my tale and reach your potential.

Accept the change that comes like the tide, set your intentions without strangling the outcome with too much control and find your own Special Sauce to become all you can be. The world needs to hear you because you deserve to be heard.

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